Understanding men -Lesson 2: Men are (almost) unchangeable
We all do the same mistake: when we’re in love, we don’t really pay attention to the little and not-so-little bothering things about the other. And even when we do, we think “well, that’s not so bad”. When those things start to really bother us, we think “well, some time it will change”.
Understanding men is easy after you get to know them
There is this sentence, don’t remember from where: “when a man marries a woman, he hopes that she would never change, and when a woman marries, she hopes he would change“. Sad but very logical: he himself doesn’t change so he thinks that also you would always stay the same: this funny laughing loving young girl with no worries he once met. Probably he also never saw you without makeup before. Or with unshaved legs 
. But you are changing. You become a wife, you settle down, you build a home, you bring kids. You become heavier, and this doesn’t necessarily mean you gain weight. You worry, you take responsibility, you become a mother. And you think that also he would change: he would become more down-to-earth, more family-like; he would learn to understand you and to give true attention. Well, you are both wrong.
He always stays a big kid looking for new toys thats why understanding men is so easy after you get to know them. Even fatherhood changes a man less that you would think. Just take a look at his habits: a guy will always put his stuff in the same place for EVER, even if it is the wrong place. He will still like grandma’s food even when he is fifty years old. When you live together for a couple of years, you will know exactly what happens next when he moves around the house. You will hear him opening the closet, count till 5 and say for him “”where is my white shirt?!” You will know that if the fridge is too full, he will die from hunger because it gets too complicated to find something in it. He will always take the same actions in same time and order: smoke, than occupy the bathroom for exactly 30 minutes, than shower, than go to the fridge. Open it, look inside, close it and ask you what’s in there.
What am I trying to say? His character will never change from itself and you should learn to accept him the way he is. When you meet a guy and start dating him, be aware that he might never change. Can you accept it? If yes, that’s great. If not, look for a new one from the billions of guys left.
Now after we said all this I must say that changing a guy (a bit) is indeed possible. But for now I’ll keep it a secret and we’ll talk about it in an other article. Now let’s go to Lesson 3 in Understanding Men.
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Men changed after marriage, because they only like the chasing. After dating, giving presents, having romantic dinner and getting married, men scare of binding their lives with wives, so they changed and start chasing all over again.
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