Making a relationship work is something everybody would like to do. But there are some things we need to avoid if we want to have a happy relationship.
Avoid thinking about separation or divorce as an Immediate option – when you enter a serious relationship, you must keep in mind the thought that separation, or divorce, is not an option. This kind of mindset allows you as a couple to see solutions to relationships boiling points, that every couple experiences, which would have otherwise been overlooked simply because one eye was too busy examining exit strategies.
Communication is the keyword in relationships, and this is the thing that helped most couples spend their whole life together.
Avoid stopping to communicate – Lack of communication is the number one reason even good relationships fail. In communication you need to listen to your partner’s needs. It’s very easy to forget how to listen. But it is also the most important thing in a successful relationships. Try to here the needs and just to be there for him or her without putting yourself in the picture. It is very important to listen as well as say what’s on your hart without blaming your partner.
Avoid fantasy- “there is no such thing as a perfect relationship, there are only perfect moments”. You need to have realistic expectations from your partner and from your relationship. Don’t expect that the crazy passion you had in the beginning of your relationship will last forever. A long-term relationship has ups and downs, it’s not always fun and exciting. To make a relationship work you need to work on it. As you take care of your car, your health, your garden, you need to take care of your relationship.
No good relationships just happen naturally. It takes hard work just like everything else in life.
Avoid giving up your time together – don’t give up dating even after years into the relationship. The time that you have just for yourself is essential for a good relationship. Time to do things that you like together without kids or work.It is very important to have shared interests for the two of you ,things that you both like to do. The time together let you keep building your intimacy and your good communication, even if you had a tough week.
Avoid of trying to change your partner -In any person there are things we like and things we don’t. Especially in our partner. The funny thing is that the thing we liked in our partner in the beginning, is what we now hate the most… try to focus on the qualities of your partner, and to compliment him or her on the things that you feel they put an effort in. When the atmosphere is good, even the hard things seems better.
Avoid thinking that every problem can be solved – every couple has issues they can not agree upon. Sometime the best idea is to agree to disagree. Sometimes talking about these specific issues just get you nowhere, and you both know it. If you want to make your relationship work, you need to have legitimate areas of disagreement. There is no such thing a partner that agrees with you on everything. The trick is how to work through issues that you don’t agree upon.
And above all, making a relationship work- takes time and a lot of patience.